I want to be a woman, but does that mean I have to be a shopper?
Piggybacking on my fem post the other day and then on my sneaker post, I want to tell you about my shoe shopping experience today. It involved the internet and a whole lot of the scroll roller of the mouse.
As I was scrolling I kept telling myself what I needed: new brown flats (look for bows and curved lines) and new black heels (look for a sleek wedge, something that won't break).
It has been a while for both of these staples of the wardrobe, so one deserves the upgrade. As I scrolled I saw some and figured I would find more and come back to those but each time a cute sneaker came up my heart melted. THAT is what I want hugging my foot every day. I want the retro-style funky looking sneaker on my foot at all times. Why can't that happen?
At the same time I know that I like to wear skirts and put on make up and cute shoes. I like wearing a good bra and getting my brows waxed regularly. And I know my husband notices and cares if and when I do fem it up, and I like that. I do like shopping.
But I just don't like buying all these things. It is not part of me. It is not who I am. I am a woman and I want to show that but I don't care what people wear and I want to show that.
So I start thinking about the essentials and that is all I want to stick with. I want it to be Simple (not like the magazine because that totally is not), but just simple. I don't want people to think I care about whether they are wearing the right thing.
I don't want people to feel threatened by my shopping.
My most honest most recent answer for this problem: The Amish.
please tell me that you don't own that brown shoe and that you will NEVER buy one like it.
ReplyDeleteWhat is your shoe size? I have a closet full of shoes that you can have your pick of... anything to get you way from that shoe...
Hahahaha. The Amish don't read commercial books, Celine. That's too big of a trade off for shoes for me.
ReplyDeleteCheck out fashion swaps in your area. My friend Melissa up here in Boston runs them and they're wildly successful.
ReplyDeletehttp://www.facebook.com/pages/The-Swapaholics/301084492011
it looks like they are either doing them in other cities or partnering/linking to ones for other cities
swapping is always a good idea...i am not sure i would drive anywhere to actually do it though. a friend in NJ used to have b*tch and swaps (I think that was what they were called) and people would bring things they were getting rid of or didn't want anymore. I like that idea.
ReplyDeleteAli - I don't think our feet are the same size sister. yet another unfeminine item to be dealt with - garishly large feet.